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What is wrong with being single – absolutely nothing. Single people seem to be on the hunt for the perfect partner, someone to share their life experiences. However, there is a time when being single is the best thing you can do for yourself and your personal growth. Low self-esteem leads people to believe they are nothing without a partner. Nothing could be further from the truth.
It is important to feel comfortable in your own skin before you can give to others. It goes to loving yourself before you can love someone else. It is necessary to see yourself in a healthy relationship before this can happen to you. Many people do not know how to feel emotionally healthy themselves and they try to form a perfect partnership. It does not work that way. We start out in life being single and we must get good at it before we can find a partner and a healthy relationship.
When parents find themselves single, either from divorce or death, it is difficult for them to get back into the dating world. Single parents dating are awkward depending on the age of the children. Before you bring a date into the world of the children, ask yourself some difficult questions. Timing is everything for the single parent. When is the right time to introduce children to someone new? It is a personal decision, but there are guidelines for the introductions.
- What is the age of the children and are they emotionally mature enough to handle the meeting?
- How long have you been dating this person?
- How fast do your kids attach to others?
- Does the potential partner feel committed to your relationship?
- Have you discussed dating with your kids?
Kids are resilient but they have definite opinions when it comes to their parents dating others. Sabotage and manipulation are common when it comes to this topic. Open communication with the kids is key. Do not let them dictate what you can and cannot do but be open to their emotional needs at the same time.
When it comes to single parents dating, there should be rules and guidelines set out for the kids just as there are in everyday life. Dating parents is another life experience for the family unit and the rules of etiquette and behavior apply. The kids should be well behaved and respectful of the new adult that in the home. Everyone should do the right thing and behave the way they have been taught by their parents. Everyone should know what is expected of him or her, the parents included. Kids have definite opinions about the parents dating and all views must be respected. However, the mother or father is still in charge of their life.
Do not make the mistake of pressuring the child into liking the new friend. Have regular family discussions to keep everyone on the same page. It is ok for the child not to like the new friend, but they must have a sound reason why this is the case. Do not spend more time with the new friend and less time with your children. This can definitely cause problems because the kids could become jealous. If there is a sexual relationship between you and the new person, do not let your children know this. It is none of their business.
If you follow a few guidelines of love and respect, dating as a single parent will be much easier for the entire family.
Many people have sought relationship advice at one time or another. People usually do not seek advice from anyone unless there is a problem. These relationship problems could be everything from surviving infidelity to how to find the right partner. Books, videos, newspaper columns, websites and dating services offer advice and tips when it comes to relationships of all types. The whole world of relationships is a billion dollar industry.
Finding a partner is easy for some and hard for others. Dating comes naturally for people, unless they are shy, have low self-esteem, feel they don’t deserve someone or have other emotional issues. Dating services were once a service of last resort to find a mate or a date. The best dating service advice is to be open-minded and shop around for the best service for you.
Not all dating services are alike. Some services feature a library system where photos and bios are open to members. The fees allow you to view the membership books. This system is good and works, but open the member up to mass rejection. If one member asks out another member, there are a lot of no’s. Sometimes the members feel like they ask every member out, sort of like throwing a date request out there to see what sticks. If the member doesn’t already have high self esteem, the rejection is tough to take. There are many online dating options and this keeps personal issues more anonymous. People feel much safer through the Internet.
Other dating services offer a pairing option such as a matchmaker. The matchmaker gets to know you and they set up the date for you. Sometimes this works and other times it is a disaster. These fees are higher, but it takes some of the rejection out of the process. How do you take rejection? If you handle it well, the library system may be for you.
|Sheri Ann Richerson|