Unfaithful Partners – The Downside Of Confession

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Unfaithful Partners – The Downside Of Confession

Unfaithful partners in marriages or committed relationships are a huge epidemic in our society. In 1998, 22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past. 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity. Recording accurate infidelity statistics is difficult because people will not confess to cheating so these numbers could be much higher than reported.

Should partners confess unfaithful behavior to anyone?

If an affair has ended, it may not be the best idea to confess infidelity to your partner. The relationship could be irretrievably broken and the trust gone. It is also not a very good idea to tell your best friend just to get it off your chest. You are putting a terrible burden on the friend just to make yourself feel better. If confession is good for the soul, visit an objective third party such as a clergyman. There are also many marital retreats for couples to attend. Put all of the negative energy of the act of infidelity into improving the relationship with your partner. People can change and they can stop cheating as long as there is a solid commitment to do so.

   

Comments

5/5/2007 6:03:17 AM
Ashok Monga said:

I disagree. Spouses who have committed infidelity should confess to their partner and undertake not to repeat it in future. "Want to be trusted, tell the truth."


12/18/2008 11:16:01 AM
douglas said:

Putting some secret between you and your spouse will destroy any proof of respect for them. Tell them the truth and let them decide for themselves and just keep it real. IT IS WHAT IT IS AND WAS WHAT IT WAS .


2/28/2012 6:33:43 PM
steve said:

i agree with the above posters. how can you look someone <your spouse no less> in the face and lie day after day. because that is what it is ... living a lie! omission of the truth is a lie!




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