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Finding a partner is easy for some and hard for others. Dating comes naturally for people, unless they are shy, have low self-esteem, feel they don’t deserve someone or have other emotional issues. Dating services were once a service of last resort to find a mate or a date. The best dating service advice is to be open-minded and shop around for the best service for you.
Not all dating services are alike. Some services feature a library system where photos and bios are open to members. The fees allow you to view the membership books. This system is good and works, but open the member up to mass rejection. If one member asks out another member, there are a lot of no’s. Sometimes the members feel like they ask every member out, sort of like throwing a date request out there to see what sticks. If the member doesn’t already have high self esteem, the rejection is tough to take. There are many online dating options and this keeps personal issues more anonymous. People feel much safer through the Internet.
Other dating services offer a pairing option such as a matchmaker. The matchmaker gets to know you and they set up the date for you. Sometimes this works and other times it is a disaster. These fees are higher, but it takes some of the rejection out of the process. How do you take rejection? If you handle it well, the library system may be for you.