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There is a time and place for everything, and there is something to be said for not overloading your partner all at once. The first date is probably not the place to spend hours enumerating every lover you've had, and how good or bad each one was, and how you broke up with each.
It's good to explain things in stages - so your partner can get to understand the general way you are before you get into the nitty-gritty. If he first learns that your father and you enjoyed motorcycle trips often as a child, it might make more sense to him why you dated 8 bikers in a row. If his own experience with 'biker chicks' is what Playboy channels show, his view of the world and yours might differ greatly.
Take the time to lay the background and bases out - that way when you get into the details of your life, your partner has a context in which to place them.
|Jennifer Mathes, Ph.D.|